Good Habits which children have to learn in the life

 

Habits 1: Patience

 

   Patience is the foundation of all ingenuity. -Plato

    Patience and perseverance will always get paid. --Einstein 

  People who can't do small things can't do big things. —— Lomonosov

  If anyone loses patience, he loses his soul. -Bacon

    be patient! Don't rely on inspiration. Inspiration does not exist. The fine qualities of an artist are nothing more than wisdom, concentration, sincerity, and will. -Rodin

                                           

 

    There is a saying, "I can't eat hot tofu in a hurry". This shows that patience is one of the key factors for success. In psychology, patience belongs to an aspect of the quality of will, namely endurance. It has a certain relationship with other aspects of will quality, such as initiative, self-control, and psychological endurance.

 

    Qi Baishi is a master of modern Chinese painting. Mr. Qi is not only good at calligraphy and painting, but also has extremely high attainments in seal engraving, but he is not born with this art. He has also undergone very hard training and unremitting efforts before he has cultivated the art of seal engraving to a superb state.

    When he was young, Qi Baishi loved seal cutting, but he was always dissatisfied with his seal cutting skills. He asked an old seal carver humbly for advice, and the old seal carver said to him: "You go pick a load of foundation stones and go home. You have to carve and polish them, and wait until all the stones have turned into mud. Your seal will be carved."

    So Qi Baishi did what the old seal carver wanted. He picked up a load of foundation stones, carved and polished them, and compared them with ancient seal carving works of art, and he kept carving them day and night. Carve and polish, and then carve.He don't know how many blood blisters have formed on his hands, day after day, year after year, the foundation stones are getting less and less, while the mud on the ground is getting thicker and thicker. In the end, all the foundation stones were finally "fossilized into mud".

    This hard foundation stone not only sharpened Qi Baishi's will, but also enabled his art of seal cutting to continue to grow during the tempering. The powerful, refined, and unique seals he carved. Gradually, his art of seal cutting reached a state of proficiency.

 

    A girl who graduated from the exam went to apply for the secretary of the manager of a foreign trade company. However, the company arranged for her a position as a clerk in the administration department. The girl thought for a while and felt that as long as she was patient and did her job as a clerk, it was just as good. So she agreed.

    The girl’s job is to receive guests, photocopying and printing. Colleagues always pile up some documents that need to be copied and printed on the girl's desk, and then tell her which ones need to be copied, which ones need to be printed, and how many copies of each need. Girls always patiently record various requests, and then do them carefully.

    On several occasions, the girl's careful inspection prevented the loss of the company. Therefore, the girl was really promoted to manager secretary. This is what the girl said to people: "Although work is simple, as long as you have extraordinary patience and care, you will succeed."

 

    Patience is considered to be one of the measures of a person's psychological quality, mental health, and one of the key factors for a child's future success. Cultivating children's patience will not only help him in his studies, but also have a great influence on his future life. However, children are children after all, and many children are not patient enough. As long as they thought or heard, they demanded to be honored immediately. Otherwise, they will keep entangled and noisy until the parents meet their requirements.

 

This is not surprising, because the patience of a child is not inherent, but needs to be cultivated. When a child keeps crying and forcing his parents to meet his requirements, the parents must be calm and must pay attention to patient training for the child. Only the patience of parents can cultivate the patience of children. So, how to cultivate children's patience habits?

 

Suggestion 1: Parents should be role models.

 

     Many children are impatient because the parents themselves are anticlimactic. Therefore, if you want your children to be patient, parents must first do everything patiently.

     For example, parents can study with their children at night. When the child keeps getting up and sitting down, parents should insist on reading. When the child sees his parents can read the book patiently, he may be infected.

     In addition, before asking the child to do something, parents must make an appointment with the child to do it patiently; if it is not done, not only need to make up for what has not been done, but also have to add time to deal with related things . In this way, children can do things in a planned way, and they can also finish things patiently within a certain period of time.

 

Recommendation 2: Let the child learn to wait.

 

    Children are children after all. They don't seem to have much patience. As long as they think of one thing, they always want to do it immediately, otherwise they will keep entangled.

    My mother was making cakes in the kitchen, and Xiao Huixin watched her keep busy.He saw his mother bring out fragrant chocolate and fresh fruit. Xiao Huixin said, "Mom, I want to eat cake."

    Mom said: "The cake is not ready yet. Mom has to mix the flour and add Huixin's favorite chocolate and fruit."

    The 3-year-old Xiao Huixin still pesters her mother: "I just want to eat cake! I want to eat it now!"

    Mom became a little impatient: "How can you eat the cake before it's ready? Why are you so disobedient?"

    Xiao Huixin began to bargain: "Then I want to eat chocolate and fruit!"

    Mother said: "You have eaten chocolate and fruit, how can mother make a cake?"

    "I don't care, I want to eat now!" Xiao Huixin began to shame.

Mother had no choice but to let Xiao Huixin eat chocolate and fruit first.

    Now Huixin is in elementary school, but she always seems to be a three-minute enthusiasm for doing things. When she thinks, she can’t sit still.

    In fact, if parents teach their children to wait from an early age and don’t meet their children's requirements in everything, the children's patience will gradually be cultivated.

    Just after dinner, 7-year-old Yufan began to shout, "Mom, I want to go to the park to play."

    Mom said: "Wait a minute, wait until Mom finishes packing things and go together."

    "No, I want to go now, you can clean up when you come back." Yufan began to insist.

    "No, you have to do everything one by one. Mom has to clean up before going with you. You wait a while and read today's newspaper for a while. Mom will soon finish packing up."

    At this time, Yufan had picked up the newspaper and looked. When mother finished packing her things and walked to the living room, she found that Yufan had watched with gusto. It turned out that he saw a little story that he liked to read.

    It can be seen that when a child is impatient, parents must insist and cannot make concessions because of the child's request. If parents always make concessions as long as the child asks, the child’s experience is that "mother always listens to me and I can do whatever I want", then the child will become increasingly impatient. Of course, parents should not use a blunt attitude to order their children, such as "No, you will wait for me", so the children will have a rebellious mentality. Therefore, smart parents should let their children understand that there is a reason for waiting.

 

Suggestion 3: Train from the little things around you.

 

     In daily life, any small things can be used to cultivate children's patience. For example, washing dishes, cleaning tables, tidying up the room, etc. At the beginning, the child will do it carelessly while wanting to play. At this time, the parent can stand on the side and urge the child to make the child do it attentively until he washes the bowls, cleans the dining table, and tidies the room. Let the children understand that everything must be done patiently.

     After experiencing small things, parents should consciously set up obstacles for their children and provide them with some opportunities to overcome difficulties. Because patience is tempered by a strong will, the more difficult the environment, the more patience the child can exercise. At this time, parents should encourage their children to do things not halfway. When a child has worked hard to accomplish something, parents should give praise in time to strengthen the child's good habit of doing things patiently.